Identifying My Support System

I learned an important lesson today. I learned that not everyone realizes the magnitude of my birth-father reunion trip to Chattanooga, TN. Not everyone even respects or understands the significance of this trip for me – some people don’t even understand what it means to be adopted, or to adopt. This lesson was very important for me to learn, as I was put in a tough spot, and had to endure a rather unfortunate conversation with an elder who does not understand the degree of sensitivity I expect and require when discussing this upcoming trip. I cried uncontrollably once I got the opportunity to be alone, I felt so hurt and disrespected. I have definately learned that since this trip holds such a special place in my heart, and is such a weighted issue, I need to be more careful with whom I choose to open up to about this journey. I need to identify who is supporting me, and who is simply  negatively contributing to this already emotionally turbulant experience. 

  I so sincerely appreciate everyone who has been thinking positive and uplifting thoughts surrounding this trip. Your support and kind words do not go unnoticed by me. I genuinely appreciate the well wishes and support.

I can’t believe that we will be leaving this Saturday!

2 thoughts on “Identifying My Support System

  1. Oh Angela, I am so sorry to hear of this incident. It is difficult to imagine that anyone could be so lacking in understanding. Many times in my counseling career I suggested that people “consider the source”, and not give undue power to those with negative thoughts – or those who lacked the sensitivity to see how their comments or lack of insight might impact others.

    I will hold you in my heart and in my prayers as you go on this vitally important journey.


  2. Angela, I’m so sorry to read about one of those unfortunate realities in life: that words are often spoken disrespectfully through jealousy, ignorance, fear of the past…or the future, but…, know this: that all of the positive energy that has and is, being sent your way from all your friends, relatives, God-parents, well-wishers, etc. trumps any negative karma a thousand fold. We love you and respect your decision making choices. Who can argue with the ones you’ve made to this point in your life. We are very proud of you, as I know your parents and friends are.

    Thank you for sharing this eventful journey with us.

    Bruce and Debbie


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