Darel is an adoptee who felt his heart stirred with long repressed emotions after viewing Closure. Our meeting was Darel’s first conversation with a fellow adoptee about his adoption story. He met his birth mother when he was 50 years old which helped him to better understand how this primal separation affected every single day of his life. His birth mother was secretly sent away to a maternity home for women who are “in trouble” (See Philomena or A Girl Like Her). Yesterday, the disgraced L.A. Clippers owner Donald Sterling received a punishment for his racist statements of a lifetime ban from the NBA – The sanction imposed on Darel’s birthmother used language not too dissimilar – the documents state that she was to be “forever barred from raising the child.” The general philosophy behind infant adoptions during the 30’s and 40’s was that children adopted in their early years would have absolutely no memory of their birthparents.
I know there are other folks like Darel, whose voices are worthy to be heard. I would love to hear from other adult men who were adopted during the era of closed adoptions as it’d be so enriching for male adoptees to get to know each other and share experiences. I can’t help but wonder how Darel’s life may have looked had he conversed with another adoptee earlier on in his life.
** Filmed and edited by Bryan Tucker. **